If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. – Marcus Gravey
Confidence is everything one can ask for. No one is born being confident. You have to work on it; you have to build it to help you achieve your goal. If someone has incredible self-confidence, it is because they have worked on it.
Confidence helps you achieve everything, whether it’s a goal or just a wish to get anything. But lack of self-confidence might create problems for you; you struggle to achieve your goals, even the small things you want.
Being confident in everything is a self-made choice, if you want to be confident you need to work on yourself.
Following are some key point that can help you boost your confidence.
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See yourself as you want to be
“God didn’t make a mistake when he made you. You need to see yourself as God sees you.” – Joel Osteen
In life and work, everything begins with a goal and in order to achieve your goal, you have to see yourself as achieving it.
This is what visualization is, seeing an image of your future self-achieving your goal. Practice visualization helps you boost your confidence and do well in every aspect of life.
“Be the best version of you.” – Unknown
It’s maybe the simplest one but it’s also the most important. It’s amazing to see how small things like a shower and shave or a nice dress can boost your self-confidence.
Looking good helps you feel good that eventually ended up boosting your confidence.
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” – Abraham Lincoln
Sometimes it’s hard to be confident when you see everyone near you is doing really well. You start doubting yourself that you might not do as well as them.
Beat that feeling by preparing yourself from the very beginning. Work your a** off, so you can stand high at the time of result.
Do one thing daily that scares you
“You must do one thing you think you cannot do” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Face what you are scare off on a daily basis and the day will come when you stop scaring of it.
By facing your scares daily, you can gain confidence from every experience and you can even feel your confidence boosting.
Don’t be Afraid of Failure
I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. – Michael Jordan
We all fail at something, sometimes we fail at the same thing continuously. But it doesn’t mean one should stop trying and give up. Once, Thomas A. Edison said “I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
No one has won something remarkable without failing. Failure makes you do better, every time you fail instead of thinking to give up try to work harder than ever. If you want to succeed in life, you need to be comfortable with your failures.
Set Yourself up to Win
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” -George Eliot
People settle for bigger goals while they are not able to achieve small goals. One should start with small goals that you think you can win easily and then go for bigger goals.
Once you start succeeding, make it a habit. If you want to make a habit of winning, you must develop the habit of decisiveness because your decisions need to be assists by your desire.
For where there is a desire there is a fire to achieve the goals.
Get to know yourself
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle
One should know him/herself before knowing someone else. You should know what you like what you don’t, what you are good at and what you are best at.
You should also know your flaws, so you can learn to overcome it. Know yourself and don’t change yourself for somebody else because everybody is unique and different.
If you want to change something in yourself do it for yourself not for somebody else.
“No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.” – Regina Brett
Dress nicely, one of the most common and important for boosting self-confidence. If you dress nicely, you will feel more confident than ever.
If you are good at work, but you are not in a fine dress, believe me no one will give you enough attention as they are supposed to be.
Help someone else
“We rise by lifting others” – Robert Ingersoll
Help everyone you see in need. Helping others make you feel good and do more for others.
When you help others at work or in something they are not able to do by themselves, not just you feel good but you also get confident by helping them.
Create Personal Boundaries
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” – Brene Brown
Learn to say no to the things and people you don’t want in your life. Stop thinking about what others will think about you or you might hurt them by saying no to them.
At the end of the day, people will judge you no matter what you do for them so do what you want to do and just be yourself.
Creating personal boundaries will help you do better and boost your self-confidence.
Create a list of your Achievements
“Achievement seems to be connected with action. Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” –Conrad Hilton
Sometimes when we fail, we lose our confidence. Everyone fails at some point of their lives, that doesn’t mean we should give up.
Instead of giving up, make a list of your achievements and post them on refrigerator door, on the wall, by your desk, or somewhere you can easily be reminded of all your achievements.
It will not just help you in feel better about yourself, but also boost your self-confidence to do better and never ever give up.