“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground.” Wilferd Peterson, The Art of Living
There is an old saying that says you are the company you keep. That means people that you have around you whether your friends or colleagues, they have so much influence over you.
Your circle has direct effect on your life so it really should be your first priority to choose your circle wisely.
Sometimes when you try to give your best in something but still fail or get rejected. One of the reasons of this can be the circle of the people you have. People around you play an important role in your live. Your circle defines you. Period.
Take a look at this Abraham Lincoln quote and try to think a little about it:
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the ax.”
Whenever you try to achieve anything, it might come in handy to invest a lot in the tools that you are going to be using. Your achievements are not just yours. They are also the achievements of the people who have helped you during this process.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
Now we are going to discuss about what five types of people you should have in your circle:
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A right mentor can change your life. He/she can tell you when to go for your goal and when to step back. From where to start to, what will you need, what could you do in a challenging situation. They know everything.
They are as willing to give as they are to learn, thus allowing a two way street to learn, help, and respect.
Lover can be anyone. They can be your family, your gf, your friend or even your kid. The lover is someone who appreciates you. They stay behind you in your hard times and celebrate your achievements when you succeed.
Sometimes it is all you really need and that is what matters. They will erase your pain and remove your worries. And return you to yourself when you need it the most.
You started your own business for a reason, and most likely, because you have a passion for it. And sometimes, that passion fades when things get tough.
If you have surrounded yourself with the people who are passionate about their goals and business they do, is a great way for you to understand what fuels their affection so you can learn to be more dedicated to your own career in a more passionate way.
Being truly passionate about what you do is how you get through the tough days of owning your own business.
The Total Opposite
If all the people in your circle have some thinking as you, you are living in a comfort zone. It doesn’t let you get out of it and make you think you are just doing fine.
You need a polar opposite of you as your friend in your circle. People with the opposite view will help you to see things from their perspective. You can share your thoughts with them and learn from each other.
The Devil’s Advocate
They are the critical thinker. They ask a lot of questions and they can see problems before they arise. You will always need their perspective. You may not like what they have to say but they are often the voice of reason.
To sum up this:
- A mentor will show you the right path.
- A lover will stay with you in a bad time.
- A passionate will help you go through tough days.
- A devil’s advocate will cut the BS and tell you the real deal.
Always surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Don’t avoid this and be persistent about it. Having a network of people, who challenge you as much as you challenge yourself, will be good for you.
Remember, Remarkable people beget remarkable people.